..its in ur hands..........

when i have a small thing going my way..it helps me get charged up and enthused about whatever i am doing for then next few hours / days as the case might be..... while at work it might be a word of encouragement from my boss or a simple bit of planning that worked for me.....basically i take signs in the enviornment that are positve and extrapolate the benefits i get from them into what i would get in the long run provided everything goes as per plans...good thing i guess.....but not so good during rough patches in one's life as i have figured out.

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how do people fall in love when they dont even know what it is.....there is no standard definition for it.....yet ask anyone who has experienced it at any point in their lives and they will tell you that they know exactly what it is but they cant explain.....

i bring this analogy not to explain or demistify love.....it is to draw parallels from this phenomenon in many of the other very important phenomenas in our life such as success, happiness, satisfaction.....

this translates into a theory which states that u cant define or tangibly explain most things that are important in life. hence they must be a subject of our own individual constructs.....therefore we can state that these very important phenomenas are actually within our control...the way we define them is actually just a benchmark we set. after that we are just mapping reality with what is our own set benchmarks.

We get happy when reality is either on the benchmark or crossed it…and sad when it falls short of the benchmark.

So to cut a long story short…..it is upto us how we define satisfaction, happiness, success to be able to be all of it…..and have a basically GOOD life..

:) …..